- Brendan Gisby is one of the really good guys. And I’m sorry to have to write that yesterday he lost his beloved wife and muse Alison to cancer. I wanted to publicly share my condolences for Brendan at this unbearably difficult time and this seemed like the best place.
It’s always hard to know whether one is being intrusive of personal grief when such a terrible life event happens to someone one only knows ‘virtually’ but Brendan has helped me so much over the past few years and I hold in my mind his comment regarding how we make our ‘voices’ heard in a world which is awash with mainstream money and hype which is not friendly to the wee voices – ‘the internet is all we have,’ Brendan told me, on one of the all too frequent occasions when I rail about the pointlessness of social media. So it seems to me that right now, if we have no other way, then the internet is the way that we reach out to Brendan.
Brendan is, I know, a pretty private person, but he is also a man I consider a friend and I’m risking putting him out of his comfort zone at a difficult time simply in order to assure him that we are all thinking of him – that we are here for him. Nothing we can say or do now will seem much comfort, help or hope - but I think it's important to do it anyway. Out of love and respect for our friend.
Brendan has done so much for me, and for all of us in the ‘wee voice’ community that I know we will all both respect his need to grieve and give him space to come to terms with his loss – but that we won’t leave him in limbo either. It’s time for us to give back to Brendan, however we might do that – and to let him know we care. I’m sure he doesn’t need to be deluged with ‘comments’ but we might each just think how best to respond to his situation – to give back some small amount of support for all he’s done for each of us over the past few years.
Brendan, I am so sorry for your loss, and I just want you to know how much I value your friendship and everything you’ve done for the Scottish writing community both as individuals and as a whole.